Monday, October 19, 2009

I Usually Don't Do This But...

I usually don't get involved in the debate between stay-at-home-moms and working moms but...sometimes, it isn't fair.

As a stay-at-home-mom, I volunteer at the school all the time. I have supervised Safety Town, math centers and literacy centers and, I have stuffed Friday folders. I have attended the PTO meetings and I am even leading my daughter's Daisy troop.

The working moms can't do as much as I do and I don't expect them to. However, when it came around to sign up for the pumpkin farm, all the working moms took off work, signed up and got the gig. They can only take a certain amount of parents along on field trips and I got bumped because this is the only opportunity they have to volunteer.

Now, how fair is that? I have worked hard at the school over the last two months and when the holy grail of volunteering comes around, I have to step aside? I am doing all the work and they get all the fun. I feel like the custodial parent who is all liver and onions and veggies and the working moms are french fries and ice cream. I understand that they are just trying to make it equitable but this is one instance, when it just isn't.


  1. I can definitely understand the frustration. No, it does not seem fair at all. Hopefully the school can come up w/ another plan in the future.

  2. I agree with you. That is not right. I am a work outside the home mom and I try really hard to be as involved as I can with my son's school. I'm lucky because I have a flexible job but I don't think someone who is there day in, day out doing the drudge work should be edged out of the fun because I want to go.

  3. That really isn't fair. I think the volunteer jobs should go to those that sign up first.

  4. I agree with you - I think that is totally unfair! I would be pretty upset about it, too. Something should be said. Perhaps you are the one who needs to instigate some change.

  5. I forgot to comment on this one Suz. Even though I am likely to be a future working mom, I also agree that it isn't fair Sue. They should reserve spots for working and non-working moms equally for this type of opportunity regardless!