Sunday, May 8, 2011

Happy Mother's Day

Dear sister and friends who are moms - I hope you know how much I honor you this day. Lately, I have been putting forth more effort toward finding out why I have not been so fortunate to be a mother. I think part of my desire to be a mom comes from having such great examples in my life- in my own mom, my grandmother and aunts.

And you my dear sister even though at times you feel you could do better, you are doing beautifully. Your son knows he is loved and is curious, creative and smart (yes, I am bias, but, I can't help but pay a compliment when it is due on mother's day). I know you are still learning, but, no mother starts out knowing everything and one never stops learning. Even though I am not a mom- I hope you know this is true. I hope you enjoyed your day. It was nice spending time with you and mom and celebrating your day.

Tuesday, April 5, 2011

Be Here Now

Dearest sister-

I think of you often. I am sorry that at times I don't have more than a few moments to post something for you so you understand how much I think about you and hope that you are well. My last few posts have been in the form of music because I know this is something you can relate to and often, musicians and lyracists have more of a nack for being able to put into words what I am thinking. I hope you do not mind.

Prior to my last post I heard this song and it was actually the one I had planned to use, but, I didn't want you to come away with that feeling on that particular day. Today I heard this song again as I was working and I thought of you. Perhaps, it is something you need to hear/read today:

Be Here Now, by Ray Lamontagne

Don't let your mind get weary
And confused your will be still, don't try
Don't let your heart get heavy
Child, inside you there's a strength that lies

Don't let your soul get lonely
Child, it's only time, it will go by
Don't look for love in faces, places
It's in you that's where you'll find kindness

Be here now, be here now
Be, be here now, be here now

Don't lose your faith in me
And I will try not to lose faith in you
Don't put your trust in walls
'Cause walls will only crush you when they fall

Be, be here now, be here now
Be, be here now, be here now

[From: http://www.elyrics.net/read/r/ray-lamontagne-lyrics/be-here-now-lyrics.html ]

I love you! Call me if you need to.

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Right there with you

Hello my darling sister. I have thought of you often over the past couple weeks. I have been working many long hours the past few weeks so forgive me for not writing you earlier. Sometimes, when I get home at the end of a long day, I think about you. Your days must be even longer attending to the needs of a young one even when you are tierd. I can't say I fully understand, but, I hope you know that I am right there with you through it all. You can pick up the phone and call me when you need to and I will listen.

In the mean time, I hope these words keep you going. You introduced me to this song a few years ago and now every time I hear it, I smile and think of you.

Put Your Records On, by Corrine Bailey Rae

Three little birds, sat on my window.
And they told me I don't need to worry.
Summer came like cinnamon
So sweet,
Little girls double-dutch on the concrete.

Maybe sometimes, we've got it wrong, but it's alright
The more things seem to change, the more they stay the same
Oh, don't you hesitate.

Girl, put your records on, tell me your favourite song
You go ahead, let your hair down
Sapphire and faded jeans, I hope you get your dreams,
Just go ahead, let your hair down.

You're gonna find yourself somewhere, somehow.

Blue as the sky, sunburnt and lonely,
Sipping tea in the bar by the roadside,
(just relax, just relax)
Don't you let those other boys fool you,
Got to love that afro hair do.

Maybe sometimes, we feel afraid, but it's alright
The more you stay the same, the more they seem to change.
Don't you think it's strange?

Girl, put your records on, tell me your favourite song
You go ahead, let your hair down
Sapphire and faded jeans, I hope you get your dreams,
Just go ahead, let your hair down.

You're gonna find yourself somewhere, somehow.

'Twas more than I could take, pity for pity's sake
Some nights kept me awake, I thought that I was stronger
When you gonna realise, that you don't even have to try any longer?
Do what you want to.

Girl, put your records on, tell me your favourite song
You go ahead, let your hair down
Sapphire and faded jeans, I hope you get your dreams,
Just go ahead, let your hair down.

Girl, put your records on, tell me your favourite song
You go ahead, let your hair down
Sapphire and faded jeans, I hope you get your dreams,
Just go ahead, let your hair down.

Oh, you're gonna find yourself somewhere, somehow

Sunday, March 6, 2011

Steer

The first time I heard this song I thought of you my sister and my friends... I hope you know how much you are capable of if you just start out on that path one step at a time. I hope you take these words to heart:

Steer by Missy Higgins on iTunes


"Steer"

Feel it falling off like clothing
Taste it rolling on your tongue
See the lights above you glowing
Oh and breathe them deep into your lungs

It was always simple, not hidden hard
You've been pulling at the strings playing puppeteer for kings
And you've had enough

But the search ends here
Where the night is totally clear
And your heart is fierce
So now you finally know that you control where you go
You can steer

So hold this feeling like a newborn
Of freedom surging through your veins
You have opened up a new door
So bring on the wind, fire and rain

It was always simple, not hidden hard
You've been played at a game called remembering your name
And you stuffed it up

But the search ends here
Where the night is totally clear
And your heart is fierce
So now you finally know that you control where you go
You can steer

'Cos you've been listening for answers
But the city screams and all your dreams go unheard

But the search ends here
Where the night is totally clear
And your heart is fierce
So now you finally know that you control where you go
You can steer
Year get out of the box and step into the clear
'Cos now you finally know you can steer

Sunday, January 30, 2011

For My Sister with Love

It has been several months since any of us posted on At Work, At Play or At Home All Day and for that we apologize to our 37 followers who probably don't exist any more. Turns out keeping up with a blog when people are only committed to contributing once a week seems to be even harder than those who commit themselves to nearly everyday when you don't have a specific goal in mind. Each year since we started this blog, I have started the year over with a renewed set of things to accomplish with hopes that I will achieve them since I am sharing them with friends and followers. This year, I have decided to do things a little differently; I will write about only one of them and by doing so I will hopefully accomplish it because I will be more focused on it. Now, I know this could be very narrow, but, I am hoping that if each of our contributors chooses one thing, in the end, our blog will be different because we have different ideas or goals in mind as we write.

When we started this blog a few years ago, we did have a purpose- to share with each other a bit of our daily lives and offer support as only women and friends can give in the joys and in the hard times at work, at play or at home all day. I have decided to write with this in mind, but, to do so instead for one specific person, so in the end the focus is the same. I have a sister who I love very deeply- we don't live too far apart, but, far enough away that we do not see each other more than once a month and sometimes less. We don't get to talk as much as we used to, but, I think about her constantly. It is not that we do not try, but, as every woman knows, life gets in the way. When we do talk it is only moments at a time and sooner or later a distraction pops up and we are going off in our different directions again.

My sister is a 30-something, single mother who also works fulltime, but, is considered part-time and so she has no benefits. Both she and my nephew, Andrew, have been living with my parents since he was less than a year and she and her ex got divorced. It is hard to believe how time flies, but, Andrew is now nearly four. Both of them have changed quite a bit over the years and so have my parents.

I know this is not necessarily the relationship or situation they each had in mind, but, they make it work and enjoy being there for eachother. Other times, however, I wonder if my sister feels like she is stuck and can't move forward. I see her waiting and wondering if she will be able to move on and be on her own with her child. Sometimes, I see her struggling with being a mother when it is hard and wishing that perhaps things were different. I see my parents struggle with being there for my sister and nephew; wanting to be supportive, yet finding themselves not only in the role of grandparents but also parents of my nephew. I know they love him being there, but, I can only imagine, it is not always easy to deal with a typical toddler when you are in your late 60s.

Meanwhile, I watch and I worry about all of them- wanting to help, but, not sure how I can when I am not even in the same city. I want to tell my sister that I understand, but, the truth is I can't really because my life is quite different and a whole lot easier. Who I am to tell her what to do because, if I were even in her shoes, who is to say that I would be any different.

I wonder how I can help without being too much of a big sister and not her friend. I want her to know how very strong she can be. I want her to know that she is a beautiful person with friends (and family) who know what she is capable of and the kind of person she is. There are so many things that she puts off because I think she is a little overwhelmed and doesn't know how to start moving forward. I can only be there for her and yet, I am not as much as I should be.

So, I have decided, that I am going to write with a new goal in mind- to let my sister know how much I love her and believe in her on a regular basis. Sometimes, I will send her love via a short message or a long note of support. Sometimes it maybe simply a photo or song of inspiration or gentle nudge, but, somehow, I hope I will get through to her. I will be the sister or friend I know I am capable of being even though I am not there.