Friday, January 22, 2010

Can You Nag Without Nagging?

After more than three years, I still haven't mastered this one. When it comes to trying to get my husband to remember to call to make an appointment to go to the doctor or take out the garbage, we seem to have a problem. I hate doing it, it makes me feel like his mom. There are occasions when he thinks of things on his own, but, housework and going to the doctor are usually not usually one of them and it drives me batty sometimes.

I would love to come home at the end of the day and not feel guilty that the dishes haven't been done or the cat's litter boxes haven't been cleaned for a couple days. Sometimes I am successful in getting him to tell me to reinind him and he promises he won't get mad. But then, it starts all over again the next week.

The health issue has really got me in a tif this week because he is having back problems and I am reasonably certain he has some pinched disks or worse. He hasn't seen a regular doctor in years, so a specialist is even more unlikely. He asks me if I think he might have a kidney infection because his sides hurt as well (but he doesn't have any of the other symptoms and I am not a doctor, I explain). This is the 2nd time in a couple of months, he has been dealing with this off and on through the years and he still won't go. Any advice?


  1. That's a tough one. I try and inspire my husband to do what I want but it doesn't always work.

  2. Ugh, no advice, but I feel your pain. My husband will not make a dentist or doctor appointment, ever. And it drives me batty too. I try to appeal to his sense of economics though by reminding him that he's paying for health & dental insurance so he may as well use them. That's all I've got though. Good luck!!